#1 What is This All About?
I normally write naughty, feel-good fiction, but this year I wanted to add some non-fiction blogs to the mix. Give you a pinch of what fuels the steam in my novels as well as offer some tips on bringing your own steam into any sexual relationship.
In the world of dating, women go through a few scenarios, sometimes more than once:
Scenario #1: The Almost Perfect Match
The date was amazing. The chemistry was clicking. You both felt completely comfortable and open as though this new partner was an old friend you’ve reconnected with. You can tell she’s definitely in the mood and thinking about you coming into her bed has crossed her mind once or twice. Then when the moment finally comes, you sense that she’s feeling disappointed and unsatisfied.
Ladies have experienced similar moments and suddenly that next encounter isn’t sounding that appealing.
Here are some thoughts women may have considered before allowing that same strikeout into her bed again:
Should I give him another chance? Maybe it was an off night.
Can I teach him the right way to please me? Is it worth another shot?
Normally, the mental connection was strong enough to go for another go. Maybe even another two goes. But like a good restaurant, if the atmosphere is great but the meal is somewhat adequate, most likely you ain’t dining much there or ever again.
IF THIS ROMCOM BEGINNING IS SIMILAR TO YOUR PAST DATING HISTORY, YOU WANT TO READ FUTURE BLOGS TO GET ADVICE TO HELP FOR BOTH PARTIES.
Scenario #2: The overeager flatterer
Dating can be awkward people are nervous when they first get to know each other. It started with attraction and some people think that is what is going to keep it going.
Therefore, women might hear:
“You look sexy tonight.”
“I like the way you look in that outfit.”
“You want to come back to my place.”
“I’m in the mood for you.”
Oh, and my favorite jaw-dropping line: “When are we gonna f**k?”
(No lie someone asked me 10 minutes into the date this very exact question. I swear any juices or good vibe I had for him dried up like Death Valley. I spent the rest of the date staying out of his reach zone and thinking about the quickest and safest way to get home.)
In all honesty, the before mentioned lines (except asking for sex) are completely fine for women to hear after getting to know someone but not every 5 minutes after the conversation drops. We love to hear that we turn you on but not so directly and repeatedly.
And I’m not wasting a number on already bad dick.
At this moment, no matter how hot the person looks, women usually are thinking:
There is no connection here. He only wants to have sex, which I may or may not be into right now. But either way, I feel dirty that he is coming on so strongly. It really gets me out of the mood.
Alright, I get it you wanna f**K! Stop reminding me. Damn, have you ever been around a woman before? You probably don’t know what to do with what you have between your legs. And I’m not wasting a number on already bad dick.
IF THIS SOUNDS FAMILIAR BY YOU DOING IT OR YOU ARE EXPERIENCING IT, READ FUTURE BLOGS TO FIND HOW TO GET OUT OF THIS BAD HABIT.
I could list more and will in other blogs, but in any scenario where you wanted to give pleasure and be pleasured regularly, this is the blog for you.
I’m not a psychologist. But I am a woman who has had sexual encounters with men such as the Almost Perfect Match, the overeager flatterer, the Seemingly Inexperienced, Large Cock and I Know It, Something isn’t right, and etc. I’ve been lucky to have them as material for my romance books.
I’ve also been married for 14 years and have two small kids. I know it can be a struggle to keep the flame going. Some nights I had to debate if going through 20 minutes of painful, unmotivated sex was worth keeping the peace in the relationship for another 24 hours.
But through my research, I was able to guide my husband and myself with the advice I have in this book. Ways to keep the physical and emotional love strong with basic maintenance of:
ATTRACTION. TRUST. CONFIDENT. COMMUNICATION. BEING OPEN TO NEW THINGS.
It’s like a mantra that has made my marriage reawaken its honeymoon stage stronger and better because we have found more tricks up our sleeves.
Ladies, I can understand that it can be so frustrating getting that nut, especially when you are really connected in a relationship (or, just hot for this partner!). . This book is for you. Let me relieve some of that sexual disappointment and advice you on how to make your partner more into that lover you imagine from a 1990s R&B song. No longer feel like you are working with a key that constantly is working your keyhole
Fellas (or inexperienced male or female lovers), it isn’t about your equipment as much as your technique. I’ve dated big, small, rich, poor, ugly and drop-dead gorgeous and very few have made the impression on me that fills my spank bank for years of self-pleasure. It didn’t matter the penis size, the tongue technique, or the jewelry he bought. It comes down to simple steps that made me want to come back for more. Steps that connected with my mind and body.
I’m telling you to read this book and find out how to be that Casanova who stays in women’s fantasies and/or the real ________ (fill in that blank of her hot celebrity dream f**k). This book belongs to you. Make that woman satisfied.
Look for upcoming blogs on certain issues which break desire and steps to build it back up.